Mediation is not counselling/marriage guidance. Family mediation does not set out to get people back together however if reconciliation seems to be a possibility we would put you in touch with an appropriate service such as Relate.
It is important that each of you enters the mediation process able to discuss and plan freely together and without risk of threat or harm. Please let me know us if there are any concerns for you about your ability to discuss matters freely. This will be assessed at your initial MIAM.
Either of you may terminate the mediation at any stage. If we think it may be inappropriate or unhelpful to continue we may also terminate the process. In either event, we will provide information as to other options available to you.
As a mediator we are impartial and seek to help both of you equally. We do not make judgments or express opinions about who may be right or wrong, nor do we take sides. We help and assist you to reach your own decisions about your futures. Although we can not provide advice we are about to provide unbiased and impartial information on mediation.
Mediators provide legal and financial information in an impartial way to help you understand the options available to you. The choices and decisions are yours and we do not make judgments about your individual or joint situation, nor provide advice on your “best interests”. We will help you both. We will help you both and assist you both to reality test the options and discuss with you which solutions might work best for you and your family. If it seems that your proposed solutions are outside the parameters that a court might approve, we will discuss this with you. It is possible and often very helpful for you to have advice from your solicitors during or before the mediation process in order to make informed decisions. Also your respective advisers can be kept informed as to progress of mediation if you wish.
All information including correspondence from either of you will be shared openly with you both. The only exception to this is an address/ telephone numbers/ email addresses which either of you wishes to keep confidential.
Mediation cannot take place if we have prior knowledge of the situation through previous involvement as a solicitor or in any other professional role. If any other conflict or perceived conflict of interest arises or emerges we will not be able to continue to act as mediators.
If you are eligible for legal aid/ public funding (we will assess you) then there is NO CHARGE for the mediation process for you and indeed the other party would benefit from your legal aid as they would also receive the initial assessment meeting and 1 mediation session for free. We do have a legal aid contact to undertake legal aid. See our legal aid page.